COMIN' IN HOT (Welcome to Leo Season! Owning your Needs) by Adam Cerny

COMIN’ IN HOT (Welcome to Leo Season! Owning your Needs)

By Adam Cerny

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✚ Regardless of what society or your parents taught you: LOVE IS NOT ABOUT SELF-SACRIFICE.
➣ Love is about finding a “win-win” scenario. For any party involved in the relationship, love is about the accommodation of each other’s best interests. Love is about facing incompatibility when no win-win exists. This is not solely dedicated to romantic love - this encompasses all types of love - since, all there is IS love. Love is integration; love is oneness.

✚ There’s a deadly trap inherent in all of this.
➣ Let’s talk about our “best interests”, our needs, and how to meet them. Best interests are your own personal needs. In fact, the terms “best interests” + “needs” are synonymous, for the sake of this message.
By not owning your own best interests, you make it literally impossible to have a relationship. Why? Because you make it LITERALLY impossible to have your best interests accommodated. So - by NOT considering your own best interests, you make a “win-win” scenario, impossible!
If you disown your needs (don’t think you’re THAT self-sacrificial), you will STILL directly + consciously (or unconsciously) take care of them. Your only option, because you can’t get rid of them, is to meet those needs in a MANIPULATIVE way. Since we inherit ancestral trauma, if this pattern of disowning our own best interests runs deeply enough, then we’re going to meet those needs + interests in the most damaging way.
➣ This is how it will happen: You will unconsciously manipulate to meet your best interests through the pity you get from being “the victim”. You will turn everything around you into the “bad guy” so that you see yourself as “good”. And, so that other people will see you as “good”. You get the kick-backs of being “the underdog”, even when you actually aren’t.

✚ If you disown your best interests, the NICEST person on the PLANET can be forced to play your “zero-sum-game” that they never even knew they were playing, and therefore, never would have wanted to win, even if they knew they were playing it!
➣ What’s a zero-sum game? It’s this: “I win, you lose. Or…I lose, you win. There’s no in-between.” A zero-sum-game offers two options where one person will always “lose”…and it never considers the third option of accommodating everyone’s best interests.
➣ I’ll be honest. It’s absolutely terrifying to go from being a person who learned that to be a “good person”, you have to be selfless + disown your best interests…to BECOME a person who considers owning them. Even THOUGH it’s terrifying, even THOUGH you want that “perfect relationship”, you must begin to own your best interests.
➣ You must communicate them from the get-go; not years later. When you do not express your needs in the beginning, and retroactively punish someone for not meeting them, that’s when you know your life is really going to hit the fan.

✚ I’ll let you in another secret that I tell my clients.
➣ What is love? Love is considering the needs + best interests of another person, and taking them as your own. This is a reciprocal act. Therefore, if you + I are taking each other’s best interests + needs as our own, it will be impossible for us to hurt each other without completely damaging ourselves.
➣ Try this out on yourself. Today. Right now. MEET YOUR NEEDS. Get to know them. Create SPACE for them to exist. Find ways to accommodate yourself. I promise you - unless you know how to meet your needs, you’re never going to find anyone in perfect alignment to meet them for you. And for those of you who think someone “saved you”….while that notion is wonderfully romantic, what ACTUALLY happened, is that you saved yourself.
➣ No matter what you do in your life - do it, coming in HOT. The cold will freeze + eventually shatter. Welcome to LEO season, where the element of fire in your natal chart is going to come in useful. Get to know your elements.
That’s how you “self-love”. It’s not about forcing yourself to love yourself SO THAT “something” can happen…it’s not about faking it till you make it…it’s about sitting in the authentic space of who you are…which you never have to apologize for.

Why? Because I SAID SO…THAT’S why.

Welcome to Leo season! 🔆🌞
Peace + Love! ✌🏻☮️❤️🕉 

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-Adam xoxo 

JULY 2019

→♉︎THREE FACES OF ADAM ♏︎← by Adam Cerny ♑︎

→♉︎THREE FACES OF ADAM ♏︎←

by Adam Cerny ♑︎

✚ Subject 1: Trauma ✚
✚ Subject 2: Transformation ✚
✚ Subject 3: Fragmentation ✚

〈You cannot remind people who they are when they would rather forget〉

To - ANYONE WHO HAS EVER LOVED or FELT PAIN,
I’m about to get very real, because, we all should be. The personal journey of never-ending self-reflection that those of us are on, can feel shitty, at times. The journey can feel excellent, too.  
I’m validating all your emotions. You were right to feel that way when you did. Because you were doing the best you could at that time. So let that person, that version of you…off the hook. I know it’s very disheartening to accept the futility of a situation gone sour. 
Here’s the thing. I’ve noticed some common pitfalls. 
For those of us who are trying to “get to the bottom” of something in our lives…in case you haven’t noticed yet…there is no “bottom”. For those of us who are the “deep inner healing” path, there’s a reason it hasn’t worked yet.
You cannot go into it thinking, “I’m going to change this part of myself. I’m going to gaslight myself by turning this negative experience into a positive outcome.” This. Is. The. Lie. See - whatever happened to make you feel this way - wasn’t okay. You were right to feel the way you did. 
I see the disappointment in yourself when you let yourself down. I see people betray themselves daily. I sit here thinking, “How the hell do they expect to ever love themselves if they’re denying, disowning, rejecting, and pushing away, a part of themselves?” It’s the ultimate betrayal; separation.  
It’s because we lie to ourselves. 
Because - in case you hadn’t noticed - if what you were doing was working - IT WOULD HAVE WORKED BY NOW. You know? 
Great. So.
Here’s a challenge. If you’re in pain, I’m asking to accept that you’re in pain. To feel it, doesn’t mean you’ve “accepted” it. Care MORE about yourself than the “daily affirmations” you’re beating yourself up for. 
I want you to love + care about yourself so much that it doesn’t matter if you’re “better” or “fixed”. 
Here’s the spoiler alert. It’s not about “getting better”. It’s not about “changing” any part of who you are. Create space for your pain to co-exist in the light with you. I want you to feel this.
Do you feel how when you say, “I want to be better”, you’re telling yourself to be something other than what you are? I’m not asking you to approve of the conditions, by any means. 
The reality is that we’ve never accepted that it’s okay to feel our emotions. Which means we’ve never given ourselves permission to be who we are. Throw “authenticity” out the door. We like the version of ourselves that “feels good”…and we abandon ourselves when we don’t. Right?
So that’d be the definition of being our own worst enemy, yes? 
That’s the reality. 
I’m not going to be gentle about this. It’s time to wake up, sunshine, and see that the key to your pain, is in your pain. Pain is your body saying, “Hey! I’m something you’ve been suppressing! I want to come up for healing! If you keep pushing me away…I’ll show up in more nefarious ways. I am suppressed emotional pain. I will graduate to physical pain because there is no separation between the two.”
Do you see how pernicious this cycle can become? 
I want you to honor all your emotions because otherwise, I’d be asking you to betray yourself. No. Instead - LOVE yourself so hard it hurts. I’m not asking you to like pain. Love yourself, with NO conditions attached. “Love” is taking something’s best interests as your own best interests…as to become one, again…oneness, whole, etc... 
I don’t care who you are. You ARE SO deserving of love. 

This is the way things are. Take it or leave it. 

You cannot remind people who they are when they would rather forget. 

THREE FACES OF ADAM shows what can happen when we forget. 
I don’t want you to feel sad. I don’t want you to feel happy. I want you. All you. The way you are. Right now. In THIS moment. No conditions.
Spoiler alert - that’s what unconditional love is. Walk the talk. 

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PEACE + LOVE ☮️❤️
-ADAM xoxo

MAY 2019

FREAKSHOW by Adam Cerny

FREAKSHOW by Adam Cerny

Remember how fun it used to be to find “easter eggs” hidden within your favorite films? We’ve become a bit desensitized to that excitement, I feel. Now, we expect the little surprises. I like stories which retain a spirit of magic. It’s rare to find that very individual + personal honesty in storytelling nowadays. This unification of “method” under certain umbrellas (schools of thought) indoctrinate us into a pattern of imitating + resembling.

Storytelling can be a very personal, spiritual process. It’s a transcendental exercise of focused energy + intent. The act of telling a story is a process of movement in itself. It’s as much an “experience” for the actors + crew as it is for the audience…just, flipped.

A lot of audiences don’t know that their energy is read like a hawk from those on stage. This is why I believe storytelling + acting are deeply personal and sometimes private, processes. The “easter eggs” in my short films are hidden in plain sight. Once the egg is cracked open there is sweetness to find.

I’m a person like anyone else in the sense that I’m amazingly flawed + human. I have this “sordid past” of sorts… that only makes sense, right? Because we all do. We all have a freakshow within us where all of the rare oddities come out to play. This is where the conundrum starts: do I blend or stand out?

My Vedic Sagittarius moon wants to tell you to let your freak flag fly, proudly. My Tropical Capricorn moon wants me to tell you to reel it in. My Tropical Scorpio ascendant is going to show you everything you’re scared of, in yourself, through me. I serve as a mirror for your subconscious. I’m also going to tell you that it’s okay to show your flaws.

Because - who gets to decide “said attribute” is a flaw? Who decided flaws are inherently "bad"? Who? You? Me? Or is it just open season, for anyone? The answer is going to be different for everyone. While I preach a message of unity + oneness in this Universe, conversely I want to marry that with the self-awareness of being a separate being. Of expressing yourself through your body. We are all fragments of each other, searching for our way back to unity.

Take it easy on yourself. You won’t have all the answers + you’ll never get it all “right”. Sometimes you will, sometimes you won’t, and sometimes you’ll straddle the line between the two. And - you know what? That’s okay. Why? Because I said so. That’s why.

Enjoy the show!

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APRIL 2019

SHOVANIST: A Chauvinist Story by Adam Cerny (based on the book "Men are Better than Women" by Dick Masterson)

SHOVANIST: A Chauvinist Story by Adam Cerny (based on the book "Men are Better than Women" by Dick Masterson)

🛑❌CAUTION: Rated R for LANGUAGE. If subjects surrounding Gay Marriage or Gender Equality are a TRIGGER for you, please, pass on viewing this film❌🛑

(Note: This is an acting piece based on the book “Men are Better Than Women” by Dick Masterson. To purchase his book on Amazon, click HERE 👉🏻https://amzn.to/2Q188OC👈🏻)

I want to teach a little lesson on the topic of HATE. If you feel triggered, don’t read further. If you’re open, let’s go.
This movie is going to test you. I mean, REALLY test you.
I want you to challenge yourself.
I want to see how long you can listen to the character in this film talk before you explode with anger, or shut off with disgust.
For every time you reach a “crisis moment”, or a moment where you think I’ve gone “too far”…

1.) Stop the video and write down on paper the specific words that offended you.
2.) Identify with your fear (after all, pushing anything away from you is always operating from a place of fear, **WINK**) How do you do this? By feeling the emotion you experience, capturing it, and then put its essence to paper, again. Adjectives.
3.) I want you to look at the emotion you’ve written down on paper. Feel it. Now - think back - way back - to the VERY first time you remember feeling that specific emotion. Go back as early as you can.
4.) What was going on then? What caused you to assign the meaning (emotion) you did, to the particular event?
5.) Do you enjoy feeling this emotion? If yes, proceed no further. If no, let’s go.
6.) Think about what’s good about feeling this emotion. Think, search, find everything that is “good” about your emotion, and write it down.
7.) You’ve just brought a shadow aspect of yourself into the light. Congratulations. 🙏🏻❤️ This means the reaction you had to the film…(this will blow your mind lol)…had NOTHING TO DO WITH THE FILM. Whoa! Did I blow your mind, there? It’s a conditioned response to an event in your early childhood where you assigned an emotion to it. It worked at the time, yes. It’s outdated, though. Look at this self-awareness you have now! Imagine how many times you’ve looked at events in your life through this ORIGINAL lens you created. You just identified it.

I go after Feminism and Gay Rights in this film because they are hot topics, buzzwords + are all still a conglomeration of issues that are not yet solved. Even today. Gloria Steinem only opened the door to the Playboy Mansion, right? We need more people to step through it if there’s going to be an effective change.

“Change”. Another awesome buzzword. So often used, so rarely seen. Much like how we treat the fact that the behavior shown in this film is a reality, today.

I’m going to be really real. Our society has an embarrassingly Kindergarten-approach to emotions + emotional intimacy + equality. The character in this film is the perfect representation of everything that makes us cringe. He’s purposely tapping into an emotional space that we leave unexplored.

Why do these jokes exist, to begin with? Have we asked that question? How do we find humor in dire situations? Why do we find humor? Is there a purpose to it?

Another question we could consider asking ourselves is: where do I feel comfortable “drawing the line”? What’s your threshold? This film will most definitely challenge your ability to withstand a satirist view of an unbelievably ignorant truth.

Yes - people like this really do exist.
How does that make you feel?
Let’s talk about it.

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PEACE + LOVE ☮️❤️

-ADAM xoxo

JANUARY 2019